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Alison Smith
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Keeping Procurement Teams on track in 2012
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Thursday 17 May 2012
Friday 4 May 2012
Interview or naked party?
I attended a CIPS local chapter meeting last night facilitated by Lynsey & Jack from Hays here in Scotland. The topic was CV's and interviews - and whilst I'm not looking for a job, and was there mainly to network and connect, I still came away with many things to do differently.
One overriding message, for me anyway, was a reminder that the words we use impact what's going on in our head and therefore have an impact on our state. This in turn then impacts our behaviour.
For example we use the word Interview. Our head may then form a picture of an interrogation. This may then lead us to start imagining angry people shouting at us, all the things we don't know the answer to and/or being asked questions that have us siting there in dumbfounded silence unable to utter a word. With these images going around our head it's easy to understand how stress levels increase and our ability to think clearly starts to diminish.
If there's a link then to the words we use, the pictures they create in our heads and the resulting actions we take I'd suggest it's useful to be aware when these are helpful and when they're not. If unhelpful we then have 2 options:
- Change the word we're using to a more helpful one.
- Change our representation of the word.
Alison Smith
Helping Procurement find the right words when dealing with stakeholders
Thursday 3 May 2012
Respect - what does it look like to you?
Yesterday I blogged about our relationship to time. As a result of tweeting about the blog I asked did someone being late show a lack of respect. It was a trick question really because as I explained in the blog - those with a preference for In-Time won't believe so and those with Thru-time preferences will.
And they're both right - from their worldview anyway. I suggest it's up to both parties to understand the other's worldview. Those In-time should understand that their colleagues with Thru-time preferences may judge their behaviour to be disrespectful and understand the repercussions if someone holds that belief about them. Those Thru-time should understand that those In-Time would believe that their undivided attention in meetings is more respectful.
Which had me thinking about our values - of which respect might be one.
Our values are what inspires and motivates our daily actions. They're what determine what we will do and what we won't do. They also determine what we do and don't admire in others and therefore how we judge them - and ourselves for that matter.
Even at it's simplest level what values are in our top five can and will lead to disputes between individuals about what to do and what doing it means. As another blog in Supply Management suggested when I chunked our values into Achievement, Affiliation & Power. Someone valuing Achievement and Success may very well want to manage a project differently than someone valuing Affiliation.
Every action is motivated by a need to achieve a value - yes even actions that a majority of us would deem to be unacceptable. Which brings me to the added complexity that our values are nominalisations and we each have our own definitions for what achieving them means.
If I take respect for a moment then it might mean any, or none, of the following to someone:
- Being on time for meetings
- Giving our undivided attention in meetings
- Listening to what others are saying
- Acknowledging you have heard what others have said
- Saying thank you
- Doing what you say you're going to do (see blog on being faithless and therefore trustworthy)
- Being honest
- Doing what they want you to do
- Respect for yourself
- Respect for others
- Respect for the planet
- Fairness (which I'd suggest is in fact another value)
Alison Smith
Helping Procurement understand their and their stakeholders' values.
Wednesday 2 May 2012
Are you always or never late
If I was to ask "which of the following applies to you when arriving for appointments?" most of us would be able to find one that applies most often:
- I'm ALWAYS early
- I'm early
- I arrive just in time
- I'm late
- I'm ALWAYS late
The fact is both 1's and 5's get frustrated with each other for different reasons. 1's will think that 5's don't respect them because they're late, 5's think 1's are being over sensitive. Both will certainly think they're belief about the other is right. And from their worldview they're both right.
In NLP there's 2 descriptions used for our relationship to time which help explain this difference:
- In-Time - where you're living in the present fully experiencing what's happening in the moment
- Thru-Time- where you're viewing time from a distant - thinking ahead to the future or back about the past
We each have a preference for which style we use most but the key is being able to be flexible and switch between them as appropriate. I'd also suggest we need to realise when we've got stuck in one mode and take action, as I think I demonstrated in my 'Hare or Tortoise' blog based on my 4 day adventure on the farm recently. When I went from Thru-time Hare to In-Time Tortiose.
Alison Smith
Helping procurement work in and thru time appropriately
Thursday 26 April 2012
Patience and the Important Meeting
Last Friday whilst on my farmyard adventure we moved some sheep from one field to another. About half a mile of it was along a country road. Obviously when doing this traffic can be affected - which happened on this occasion. A queue of 3 cars developed in the 5 or so minutes it took to move the sheep. One of the drivers asked how long it would take and when told "5 minutes" promptly turned the car around. This has happened before when one businessman exclaimed "but I have an important meeting" and has been known by the farmer as Important Meeting ever since. In both instances the detour taken would have been over 15 mins vs 5 mins of waiting.
I appreciate the frustration - I've been there and done that. When we're busy it's easy to allow our journey to be the most important journey anyone has ever made. To want everyone else on the road to get out of our way. To make moving the goal - especially not moving slowly or even not stopping the goal. It does however highlight some questionable beliefs:
I am more important than anyone else
Constant moving is more effective than stopping
Moving quickly is more effective than moving slowly
Others on the road don't have a valid reason for being there
and certainly not as important a reason as yours
Next time you start to get impatient just look at the underlying belief that's generating that emotion and ask your self about the validity and truth of your thinking.
Alison
Alison Smith
Helping procurement teams take time to assess the most effective speed of progress
I appreciate the frustration - I've been there and done that. When we're busy it's easy to allow our journey to be the most important journey anyone has ever made. To want everyone else on the road to get out of our way. To make moving the goal - especially not moving slowly or even not stopping the goal. It does however highlight some questionable beliefs:
Next time you start to get impatient just look at the underlying belief that's generating that emotion and ask your self about the validity and truth of your thinking.
Alison
Alison Smith
Helping procurement teams take time to assess the most effective speed of progress
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