If I was to ask "which of the following applies to you when arriving for appointments?" most of us would be able to find one that applies most often:
- I'm ALWAYS early
- I'm early
- I arrive just in time
- I'm late
- I'm ALWAYS late
The fact is both 1's and 5's get frustrated with each other for different reasons. 1's will think that 5's don't respect them because they're late, 5's think 1's are being over sensitive. Both will certainly think they're belief about the other is right. And from their worldview they're both right.
In NLP there's 2 descriptions used for our relationship to time which help explain this difference:
- In-Time - where you're living in the present fully experiencing what's happening in the moment
- Thru-Time- where you're viewing time from a distant - thinking ahead to the future or back about the past
We each have a preference for which style we use most but the key is being able to be flexible and switch between them as appropriate. I'd also suggest we need to realise when we've got stuck in one mode and take action, as I think I demonstrated in my 'Hare or Tortoise' blog based on my 4 day adventure on the farm recently. When I went from Thru-time Hare to In-Time Tortiose.
Helping procurement work in and thru time appropriately